Extract from the aacultwatch forum (old):
“…..... The issue isn't to question the idea of sharing in a way that gives hope to the newcomer. That is what we should do - share experience, strength and hope, as indicated in our Preamble.
EXPERIENCE is, of course, what happens in our lives and can include delightful events or tragic events or just plain run-of-the-mill daily routine events. Sometimes sharing "bad" experiences can give the newcomer or others IDENTIFICATION. Identification is the starting point of all healing in AA. It has been my experience that I should never pre-judge what will or will not help my listeners.
STRENGTH is what I get from the High Power(s) of my understanding. This is what keeps me going, keeps me strong and gets me through good or bad times. Remember - alcoholics don't really need an excuse to drink. I wanted to drink just as much in the good times as the bad.
HOPE is what I try to give the newcomer, and the alcoholic who suffers (who may not necessarily be a newcomer), by showing that it is possible to stay sober one day at a time, whatever the circumstances of life. On my first day of sobriety I was homeless and destitute, but I didn't drink. I went to a meeting that evening and began to take further actions in order to recover my life. It started with the first Step. That is one reason I still keep coming back, even after 26 years - to give people hope, to confirm that sobriety is possible over a long period. And by doing so, it affirms my own recovery. Besides, I love AA now and I really enjoy most meetings I attend.
The issue in my post was about the phrase "I've never had a bad day" which is not an AA promise, and is bandied about in the Cult groups I have attended in order to bamboozle and control unsuspecting and vulnerable people, and lead them into a state of co-dependency upon another person (e.g. sponsor). It is a mechanism of control based upon exaggerations and even lies. It also causes unnecessary distress to people who, for one reason or another, cannot in the heart of hearts say that they have "never had a bad day". (And, let's be honest, that would include nearly all of the human race!) It is a way of putting people down while putting others on a pedestal. It also generates intolerance and division. Having witnessed the distress and confusion this phrase causes newcomers, and others in AA, I feel it right to unpack it, and to challenge it. That's all.”
The Fellas (Friends of Alcoholics Anonymous)
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